Nothing gained. That about sums it up in a nut shell. It's about taking risks to make your life more enjoyable. Having a great goal is where it starts. I didn't learn this to well. I was told about it. But I didn't listen, to my detriment. If you want to take a risk, you can move slow. If your looking to change your job, stay with the old job until your ready for the big move. Plot your moves carefully, check things out throughly. Then make the move. When one door gets slammed in your face look for another door. Always keep the goal in focus. See your self in the future with you possessing the goal. Do it with small and large goals. Maybe start with a small goal first and see how long it takes you to get it. Write down your endeavors in a journal and date it. Me I let the wind blow me around. I did get many experiences however. Which is good. All lessons are to the good of your unfolding. Lessons learned make you smarter. When your smarter your happiness quotient goes up. And there is no top line for getting smarter. There is no finish line. It continues to go on and on. We have a choice to enjoy are lessons or to be miserable with the given lesson. Whats great about life is that we have free will and can get out of any particular situation. If a one situation keeps repeating in your life it's because you didn't learn the lesson yet. So learn it, then move on.
When people say it can't be done. Dig in your heels and proclaim it shall be done. You are the one that sets the table. Show what you can do to them and most of all to yourself. One thing I found is if you have too many irons in the fire, the goal acquiring drops down. Focus is what it takes and being relentless but not at the cost of someone else's loss. Be kind and determined.