I was at this lady's house. She loves her garden and life explorations. One day her friend who lives about a mile away was visiting her at her house. They were in the backyard and Mary was digging in her flower beds with a speciality small garden shovel, that cost about 45 dollars. Needless to say it was a Cadillac of trowels that could do everything but brush your teeth. Her friend Alice asked to borrow it. Mary handed it over to her. BIG mistake. Months went by and Mary didn't get it back. Alice then sold her house and moved away taking the coveted trowel with her. So it's a year later and Mary is lamenting to me about the lost trowel and how mad it made her.
I said to her if you lend something to anyone don't expect it back, if it does comeback then thats gravy. Meaning it's good for you. I said you lost that trowel a year ago but it's still renting space in your head and robbing you of your present good times that could be occurring right in front of you. Let it go and look for good memories here in the present. Just now a cute chipmunk walked out from underneath my car and stared at me before quickly scampering back under the car. Today here is a very nice day, everything is green a light breeze and 70 degree temp. I'm enjoying the moment. Try to feed your soul with good experiences on a daily basis.