Yesterday I read a disturbing story from Nevada. A retired cop from Southern California was deliberately run over by teenagers driving a car. He was on his bike.. Their phones recorded it and them planning to do it. After they killed him they simply laughed about it. WTF
When committing to have a kid you take on a herculean task. And you better have a ton of love to pour into the task of raising them. Without that love they may be future weeds that society will have to deal with. From the get go the kid watches and is picking up all your words and actions, they are slowly becoming you. Also there are always exception to the rule. Boundaries have to be established and consequences explained to them. Let them express their feelings to you and listen to them intently. This is love in action. You as the parent make the time. Otherwise you may get the above story. Don't be a hypocrite, kids wil pick it up immediately. When you put your kid in timeout explain to them why you did it. Give them 2 or 3 choices on differing timeouts. Get their feelings on why they did what they did. After the timeout tell them how much you love them. Kids want boundaries. It is a form of comfort. No physical abuse or mental abuse ever. When you go there, everything is lost. For both of you.
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