This is a question that needs an answer. The answer is either a yes or a no. To be a victim is agreeing that you have no power over the situation. First you have to see that you have a problem. Once you can see it, then you can fix it. When you blame others for your problems you are being a slacker. Basically it comes down to 3 words, I am Responsible period. Look in the mirror in the morning and repeat those words. I am worthy. I am loved by God. I can fix my problems by myself or an assist by spirit. Do this mirror exercise every day. This will get you out of a big rut that you put yourself in. By doing nothing that rut will get deeper making it harder to see out of it. Once your energy is saved you can direct that energy to a more beneficial life for your self. People that keep you down or upset, well just cross them off your list. If you can't get rid of them totally, then limit your time with them. Don't be nasty to them be civil, use kind words. If they direct unkind words to you reply with kind words no matter what. Why waste your energy arguing or trying to get them to see your way. So not worth it. Use that time to get what you want in your life,, put the energy there and go for your Dreams. Move on and enjoy your new better life.