Bottom line is it starts and ends with us always. That's life in a nutshell. We are responsible for everything. What we do with the lemons in our life will determine òur future happiness. We enjoy the good fortunes that come our way, as well as the misfortunes. How we adapt to the misfortunes will determine our character. Anytime a misfortune arrives at our doorstep there will be gifts to you as well, as long as you have the eyes and will to look for those gifts. The gifts will point the way forward in dealing with this problem. The gifts come from spirit. Overcoming the misfortunes will strengthen your resolve and make you a stronger person.
When you come to earth, your first interaction will be with your dad, mother or both. Also it can be neither. Hopefully it will be a loving person. The circumstances have been set up in advance of your arrival. Yes it's reincarnation. You need a lot of time to learn lessons, that can't be done in one lifetime. It takes many, many life times. It's all worth it though.
Your parents have the greatest influence on your life up until your 18, when you legally become an adult. The shaping of you starts usually between 6 and 8. If the parents are loving and supportive you will have a great start in life. If not, it will be tough for you. A lot of people will walk thorough life damaged in their thinking processes. So how the parents raise the kid has a profound affect on the child. Sometimes a good upbringing doesn't work. That soul will have a hard life as well. The child will emulate the adults , and become the adults just like their parents. To break those bad learnings , you will have to chart a new course.
A friend of mine said, your family is great, why couldn't I have had that. I said you can start anew, when you make your future family, you will do way better than how you were raised. You will be the start of a new loving generation. And this is what happened for him. He changed 7in inthe dynamics of his past ancestry.
This neighbor and me briefly worked for a company. He lived 2 doors down from me. I was at his house one day in his backyard. His 10 year old son didn't do something quickly enough for him, so he kicked him in the ass. I said John, don't do that, It's not right. On Monday, I went to work and told one of the guys what happened in the back yard. He said well thats what his father did to him at work. Kick him in the ass. The father owned the business. Sins of the father. John chose to follow his father's foot steps. Now his son will do the same to his son. On and on down the generational line it goes. How sad it is! It will only stop when a future son or daughter chooses to say stop and choose differently. This explains feuds and wars waged in the I'm right your wrong scenario. Much much unhappiness contaminating anyone who witnesses it. Or suffers it directly. Every day in any scenario you have a choice to be kind or be selfish and nasty. What's it going to be?
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